Not even me?
What's your biggest problem/fear in your version !?
- Thread starter Nihaaa
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I appreciate your thoughts but with due respect, I think detachment is not toxic but how we perceive detachment is toxic. When you say "we can't detach ourselves from parents, siblings, loved ones" by that what actually you mean? Detachment is not about getting cold to people, nor detachment necessarily means you gotta leave your loved ones and be a monk or nun. Actually problem is we can't think anything beyond emotions. We always misinterpret love as emotions. We think emotions are something very pure, divinely, but in reality emotions hinder us from being pure, emotions hinder us from thinking purely. Attachment is the business with emotions and lots of unconscious thoughts that make you only emotional, dependent and weak. what are emotions? Emotions are chemical reactions in our brains right? based on certain stimuli that we call thoughts, and all thoughts are external (coming from society), nothing yours and if you observe closely these thoughts that generate emotions are all unconscious. Unconscious means you really need no efforts to think those thoughts and react emotionally. It just happens in autopilot mode and this is the bane of emotions and attachment. There is nothing intelligent about emotions, it is just our body reactions. Even primitive animals respond to their emotions but can they love? The more you get attached to anything or anybody, the more susceptible you are to your emotions, because when you are attached , you lack intelligence (or consciousness) and emotions (based on unconscious thoughts) kick in your mind because of the certain object or person that you are attached to. Now for an example, suppose I love someone, but I am attached to her/him. My thoughts change based on their behaviors. Literally they decide whether I will laugh, cry or get angry. Now tell me is this love, or is this any sign of intelligence?? This is far away from love. This is exploitation. The more we depend on others (in any means) we just exploit ourselves and them. Love can't happen where attachment and unconsciousness reside. This is why detachment is necessary, but the true interpretation of detachment is needed. Detachment does not mean that we are cold to somebody, or we leave them or we don't care about them. Rather detachment is the prerequisite for love. What is love? To me love is the awareness of your well beings and and others' well beings too and such awareness comes when you are detached from your unconscious thoughts which are coming from your loved ones. Now tell me if we are emotionally attached to somebody, how will we care about their well beings when we are so concerned about our emotions, about our unconscious thoughts ?How will we love this way? We will end up exploiting ourselves and them in the name of love only. Isn't it so? P.S. I donno if I make sense or not. If I not sorry for my ranting, pls don't mind
Iam strong
But it hurts when i make some one my first priority and they treat me like their last option✦
I am afraid of myself..! If you're asking what my problem is, I would say it’s my laziness.