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Why do we love ?

Stupidworld

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A lot of people chase love because everything else in their life feels unfulfilling. life is hard. some people seek out love & intimacy to soften the blow of life. i think it’s a natural human response to desire closeness when you feel spiritually & emotionally alone. when you reach the point in life where you find fulfillment in yourself when you’re alone. or fulfillment in your life’s work or even friend groups that provide you that level of intimacy you deeply desire. you’ll probably be more patient in terms of seeking out romantic love.
some people get really lucky and when they’re seeking out love because life is dull and difficult, they find someone who illuminates theirs. encourages them, inspires them and helps them to do better everyday. a match made in heaven it seems. but that’s rare when you’re young.
either way, i write this not to shame anyone of course. seeking out love, no matter the reason will always provide you priceless self-awareness you never had before. but i share this to foster deeper awareness. possible insight or reflection into yourself.
ask yourself, at this point in my life, why do i deeply desire romantic love? is it loneliness? unhappiness? stagnancy? or just genuine readiness. after you get your answer, ask yourself, is there anything i can do right now to show myself that same love i desire from another?

Think .. Ponder .. Self inspect ...
 
Stupidworld said:
A lot of people chase love because everything else in their life feels unfulfilling. life is hard. some people seek out love & intimacy to soften the blow of life. i think it’s a natural human response to desire closeness when you feel spiritually & emotionally alone. when you reach the point in life where you find fulfillment in yourself when you’re alone. or fulfillment in your life’s work or even friend groups that provide you that level of intimacy you deeply desire. you’ll probably be more patient in terms of seeking out romantic love.
some people get really lucky and when they’re seeking out love because life is dull and difficult, they find someone who illuminates theirs. encourages them, inspires them and helps them to do better everyday. a match made in heaven it seems. but that’s rare when you’re young.
either way, i write this not to shame anyone of course. seeking out love, no matter the reason will always provide you priceless self-awareness you never had before. but i share this to foster deeper awareness. possible insight or reflection into yourself.
ask yourself, at this point in my life, why do i deeply desire romantic love? is it loneliness? unhappiness? stagnancy? or just genuine readiness. after you get your answer, ask yourself, is there anything i can do right now to show myself that same love i desire from another?

Think .. Ponder .. Self inspect ...
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Loved the post. It's hard to reflect though. But it's needed in every aspect of life.
 
Stupidworld said:
A lot of people chase love because everything else in their life feels unfulfilling. life is hard. some people seek out love & intimacy to soften the blow of life. i think it’s a natural human response to desire closeness when you feel spiritually & emotionally alone. when you reach the point in life where you find fulfillment in yourself when you’re alone. or fulfillment in your life’s work or even friend groups that provide you that level of intimacy you deeply desire. you’ll probably be more patient in terms of seeking out romantic love.
some people get really lucky and when they’re seeking out love because life is dull and difficult, they find someone who illuminates theirs. encourages them, inspires them and helps them to do better everyday. a match made in heaven it seems. but that’s rare when you’re young.
either way, i write this not to shame anyone of course. seeking out love, no matter the reason will always provide you priceless self-awareness you never had before. but i share this to foster deeper awareness. possible insight or reflection into yourself.
ask yourself, at this point in my life, why do i deeply desire romantic love? is it loneliness? unhappiness? stagnancy? or just genuine readiness. after you get your answer, ask yourself, is there anything i can do right now to show myself that same love i desire from another?

Think .. Ponder .. Self inspect ...
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Aaaah, mostly
*number one is boredom and loneliness
* next wanting to be in a relationship jus coz your friend is in one
* 3rd - you have a partner for shopping, movies,blah blahhh
* finally we are scared to spend the long nights alone !!!! :nodding:
 
Pinkcandy said:
அண்ணோவ், நீங்க தமிழ் கூட English லதான் டைப் பன்னிருக்கீங்க ! :facepalm:
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மேலேயுள்ள தலைப்பை பாருங்கள்... தமிழ் அறை என்பது கூட ஆங்கிலத்தில் tamil room என்று தான் உள்ளது... :Cwl::Cwl:
 
Pinkcandy said:
Aaaah, mostly
*number one is boredom and loneliness
* next wanting to be in a relationship jus coz your friend is in one
* 3rd - you have a partner for shopping, movies,blah blahhh
* finally we are scared to spend the long nights alone !!!! :nodding:
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So we are not Genuinely attracted to someone .. There is no deviga Kadhal and it's the movies and the novel and people around us over hype it ..

Kadhal oniyum kadavul ilayada intha elavu Elam harmone seiyum kalagam thanada :Cwl:
 
Stupidworld said:
A lot of people chase love because everything else in their life feels unfulfilling. life is hard. some people seek out love & intimacy to soften the blow of life. i think it’s a natural human response to desire closeness when you feel spiritually & emotionally alone. when you reach the point in life where you find fulfillment in yourself when you’re alone. or fulfillment in your life’s work or even friend groups that provide you that level of intimacy you deeply desire. you’ll probably be more patient in terms of seeking out romantic love.
some people get really lucky and when they’re seeking out love because life is dull and difficult, they find someone who illuminates theirs. encourages them, inspires them and helps them to do better everyday. a match made in heaven it seems. but that’s rare when you’re young.
either way, i write this not to shame anyone of course. seeking out love, no matter the reason will always provide you priceless self-awareness you never had before. but i share this to foster deeper awareness. possible insight or reflection into yourself.
ask yourself, at this point in my life, why do i deeply desire romantic love? is it loneliness? unhappiness? stagnancy? or just genuine readiness. after you get your answer, ask yourself, is there anything i can do right now to show myself that same love i desire from another?

Think .. Ponder .. Self inspect ...
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According to me
  • Because without it ,an infant would be left isolated ,would stop to grow , stop to develop and finally would die! Parents love.
  • So that ,there is someone who laughs on our stupidity,gives honest advice, be with us even if they are thousands mile away,one who celebrate with us at our best but love us at our worst. -Best friend love.
  • To avoid loneliness. “Air is everywhere but we still need a fan to feel it” So having lots of loved ones still we need a -Lover.
  • To maintain peace -Love others
  • God definetly listens, understands and knows the hopes and fears you keep in your heart. For when you trust in His love, miracles happen! God's love
And most importantly you need to love yourself because no one is going to love you if you don't Love yourself.
:heart1: ​
 
Stupidworld said:
A lot of people chase love because everything else in their life feels unfulfilling. life is hard. some people seek out love & intimacy to soften the blow of life. i think it’s a natural human response to desire closeness when you feel spiritually & emotionally alone. when you reach the point in life where you find fulfillment in yourself when you’re alone. or fulfillment in your life’s work or even friend groups that provide you that level of intimacy you deeply desire. you’ll probably be more patient in terms of seeking out romantic love.
some people get really lucky and when they’re seeking out love because life is dull and difficult, they find someone who illuminates theirs. encourages them, inspires them and helps them to do better everyday. a match made in heaven it seems. but that’s rare when you’re young.
either way, i write this not to shame anyone of course. seeking out love, no matter the reason will always provide you priceless self-awareness you never had before. but i share this to foster deeper awareness. possible insight or reflection into yourself.
ask yourself, at this point in my life, why do i deeply desire romantic love? is it loneliness? unhappiness? stagnancy? or just genuine readiness. after you get your answer, ask yourself, is there anything i can do right now to show myself that same love i desire from another?

Think .. Ponder .. Self inspect ...
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Why do we love ?? OR Should I say, Why do we use the word Love??
Haha, read this line somewhere that human brains are wired to fall in love or to choose a mate.

In my opinion, love or lust is one of the most powerful emotion one can express.
Oh buddy I really love the way you put it here "Some people seek out love & intimacy to soften the blow of life" can't deny it for sure.
Loneliness,
Busy Friends,
Typical Family,
Responsibilities,
Being hard on self,
Busy life that keep fucking us now and then.
Failing to express feelings to someone ...what not. Everything plays a role here.
We found these stupid reasons to escape from reality and keep looking for something like a miracle (At least in my opinion).

At this point, like you said mentioned when we find someone that illuminates, encourages, inspires and helps in every aspect to have a better day.
(Waise main bada sakht hun, par yahan main phigal gaya....... haha funny isn't it).

Yes, I do seek for love, lust and a romantic love at this point.
Been questioning myself again and again, self inspecting myself N number of times but the result is same, I do know the end result "The heart wants what it wants in the end."
Keeping my Ego aside and confessing :: Yes, I may not love myself the same I desire from another. Yet, I desire it more.

P.S: After all the agree to disagree comments, the inner me replied if love or lust is what you really desire ?? If yes, Why can't you do it with everyone that comes into your life. Why only we run after few or the so called special ones. May be its more than what we HUMANS know or More than what we say the so called LOVE.

Who am I to decide ? I am still learning to cope up with life.
 
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Why cant we just love ourselves? I mean no offense to those who already did.
But mostly people wants to feel the feeling of love. Its like equivalent to happiness , mostly everyone would go after it. Go for what makes u happy. Just the same with love , go for what you love.

But then ive been questioning myself, why cant I just love myself and not anyone just spoil myself with so much love and then i would be happy? Yes you would. But not as much as when you share it with anyone else. Not because you are lonely, sometimes when you love some unloving people they often times make you feel more lonely instead, whereas when u reminisce your time alone it was more happier.

Nah thats not it, we know ourselves well enough and we are capable of love. And showing it to another person gives the fulfillment feeling. Sudden rush of love hormones.

To be continued am sleepy and i dont wanna delee this sorry hahahahha
 
Melody said:
Why cant we just love ourselves? I mean no offense to those who already did.
But mostly people wants to feel the feeling of love. Its like equivalent to happiness , mostly everyone would go after it. Go for what makes u happy. Just the same with love , go for what you love.

But then ive been questioning myself, why cant I just love myself and not anyone just spoil myself with so much love and then i would be happy? Yes you would. But not as much as when you share it with anyone else. Not because you are lonely, sometimes when you love some unloving people they often times make you feel more lonely instead, whereas when u reminisce your time alone it was more happier.

Nah thats not it, we know ourselves well enough and we are capable of love. And showing it to another person gives the fulfillment feeling. Sudden rush of love hormones.

To be continued am sleepy and i dont wanna delee this sorry hahahahha
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And point to be noted, the love that counts is only SELFLESS LOVE. And when you go to that equation, most of your family members, relatives, neighbors, peers, colleagues, friends, bf, gf, and quote and unquote BEST FRIEND all fade away :Cwl: Then only your parents and a dearth of people would remain who might visit you when you fall sick or go to hospital! (For god's sake, we and our families remain fit, healthy, happy and never fall sick and go to hospital).

It says that 'LOVE' is the most valuable thing in the universe. But we fail to understand the 'LOVE' is always SELFLESS LOVE. But sadly, we love in terms of anything except love(I am on the same boat though). That's why, it says, only our parents love us unconditionally. Even most of the times we could not love ourselves as much as our parents do. And you know the irony is we know all these, still we chase for love behind them who would not love us and we ignore our parents who really love us selflessly( exceptions are always present).

Nowadays many people talk about SELF LOVE but very few talk about SELFLESS LOVE which is the funda of love.
 
Stupidworld said:
A lot of people chase love because everything else in their life feels unfulfilling. life is hard. some people seek out love & intimacy to soften the blow of life. i think it’s a natural human response to desire closeness when you feel spiritually & emotionally alone. when you reach the point in life where you find fulfillment in yourself when you’re alone. or fulfillment in your life’s work or even friend groups that provide you that level of intimacy you deeply desire. you’ll probably be more patient in terms of seeking out romantic love.
some people get really lucky and when they’re seeking out love because life is dull and difficult, they find someone who illuminates theirs. encourages them, inspires them and helps them to do better everyday. a match made in heaven it seems. but that’s rare when you’re young.
either way, i write this not to shame anyone of course. seeking out love, no matter the reason will always provide you priceless self-awareness you never had before. but i share this to foster deeper awareness. possible insight or reflection into yourself.
ask yourself, at this point in my life, why do i deeply desire romantic love? is it loneliness? unhappiness? stagnancy? or just genuine readiness. after you get your answer, ask yourself, is there anything i can do right now to show myself that same love i desire from another?

Think .. Ponder .. Self inspect ...
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Not only lonesome..
unheard voices
Pressure - depression- anxiety
Especially in women's case domination by men loosing self respect, lagging ambitions and loosing rights to their own life ....all will be washed away by true love (fam,frnds or partner)
 
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