The Illusion of Promises

[lucyma]

Why do people come into our lives, make connections, and promise things they have no intention of fulfilling? Then, they suddenly act cold towards us, ignore our messages and tags, and push us to the point where we start resenting them. And somehow, when things fall apart, they blame us for changing. It feels like it’s all part of a well-thought-out strategy.

 

[Honey bunch]

Why do people come into our lives, make connections, and promise things they have no intention of fulfilling? Then, they suddenly act cold towards us, ignore our messages and tags, and push us to the point where we start resenting them. And somehow, when things fall apart, they blame us for changing. It feels like it’s all part of a well-thought-out strategy.

People's moods, preferences, and behaviors seem to shift based on their needs and emotions. Sometimes, certain actions or perspectives no longer align, or the connection fades after getting close.

This might also be one of the reasons why people suddenly change, distance themselves, and eventually cut ties.

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[Persephone]

Why do people come into our lives, make connections, and promise things they have no intention of fulfilling? Then, they suddenly act cold towards us, ignore our messages and tags, and push us to the point where we start resenting them. And somehow, when things fall apart, they blame us for changing. It feels like it’s all part of a well-thought-out strategy.

That’s a sucking feeling

 

[lucyma]

People's moods, preferences, and behaviors seem to shift based on their needs and emotions. Sometimes, certain actions or perspectives no longer align, or the connection fades after getting close.

This might also be one of the reasons why people suddenly change, distance themselves, and eventually cut ties.

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Yeah I do agree to this point but doesn't that person has a basic concern to tell that I can't really be with you or I need a space a communication might have helped

 

[lucyma]

That’s a sucking feeling

Yeah I agree

 

[Honey bunch]

Yeah I do agree to this point but doesn't that person has a basic concern to tell that I can't really be with you or I need a space a communication might have helped

Yes I agree

 

[Anshhi]

Why do people come into our lives, make connections, and promise things they have no intention of fulfilling? Then, they suddenly act cold towards us, ignore our messages and tags, and push us to the point where we start resenting them. And somehow, when things fall apart, they blame us for changing. It feels like it’s all part of a well-thought-out strategy.

What a profound and relatable question!

Emotional Unavailability

Some individuals might struggle with emotional intimacy, commitment, or vulnerability. They may promise things they can't fulfill due to their own emotional limitations.

Fear of Vulnerability

People might fear being vulnerable, opening up, or getting close to others. They may sabotage relationships or pull away to avoid feeling exposed or hurt.

Self-Centeredness

Some individuals might be self-centered, prioritizing their own needs and desires over others'. They may use people for their own gain, then discard them when they're no longer useful.

Lack of Accountability

Some people might avoid taking responsibility for their actions, blaming others for their own mistakes or shortcomings. This can lead to a pattern of broken promises and hurtful behavior.

Different Priorities

People's priorities and values can change over time. What was once important to them might no longer be a priority, leading them to drift away from relationships or commitments.

Manipulation or Gaslighting

In some cases, people might intentionally manipulate or gaslight others to control or exploit them. This can be a deliberate strategy to gain power or achieve their own goals.

Personal Growth or Crisis

Sometimes, people may be going through a personal crisis, struggling with their own issues, or undergoing significant changes. This can lead them to re-evaluate their relationships and priorities.

Closure or Boundaries

In some cases, people might need to establish boundaries or distance themselves from others due to their own emotional or mental well-being.

It's essential to remember that you deserve respect, empathy, and kindness in any relationship. If someone is consistently hurtful, dismissive, or unreliable, it may be necessary to re-evaluate the relationship and prioritize your own emotional well-being.

Keep in mind that their behavior is not a reflection of your worth or value as a person. You deserve better, and it's okay to move forward and focus on nurturing relationships that uplift and support you.
*A_AICS

 

[lucyma]

What a profound and relatable question!

Emotional Unavailability

Some individuals might struggle with emotional intimacy, commitment, or vulnerability. They may promise things they can't fulfill due to their own emotional limitations.

Fear of Vulnerability

People might fear being vulnerable, opening up, or getting close to others. They may sabotage relationships or pull away to avoid feeling exposed or hurt.

Self-Centeredness

Some individuals might be self-centered, prioritizing their own needs and desires over others'. They may use people for their own gain, then discard them when they're no longer useful.

Lack of Accountability

Some people might avoid taking responsibility for their actions, blaming others for their own mistakes or shortcomings. This can lead to a pattern of broken promises and hurtful behavior.

Different Priorities

People's priorities and values can change over time. What was once important to them might no longer be a priority, leading them to drift away from relationships or commitments.

Manipulation or Gaslighting

In some cases, people might intentionally manipulate or gaslight others to control or exploit them. This can be a deliberate strategy to gain power or achieve their own goals.

Personal Growth or Crisis

Sometimes, people may be going through a personal crisis, struggling with their own issues, or undergoing significant changes. This can lead them to re-evaluate their relationships and priorities.

Closure or Boundaries

In some cases, people might need to establish boundaries or distance themselves from others due to their own emotional or mental well-being.

It's essential to remember that you deserve respect, empathy, and kindness in any relationship. If someone is consistently hurtful, dismissive, or unreliable, it may be necessary to re-evaluate the relationship and prioritize your own emotional well-being.

Keep in mind that their behavior is not a reflection of your worth or value as a person. You deserve better, and it's okay to move forward and focus on nurturing relationships that uplift and support you.
*A_AICS

Wow well said u summarised everything perfectly kudos to u for taking time and replying such a wonderful response

 

[Anshhi]

Wow well said u summarised everything perfectly kudos to u for taking time and replying such a wonderful response

 

[lucyma]

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For ur time for ur explanation take a bow