Good question. Mmmokay. For me, love is a present experience; an emotion that thrives in the moment. Perhaps I failed to convey this properly before, so let me clarify now: love is independent of any external circumstances; it exists fully in the here and now.
What I meant in my earlier lines is that once we have loved, that love remains, regardless of its state, whether it is silent or seemingly extinguished. In silence, love exists quietly, like a whisper in the background of our lives. Even if it has faded completely, leaving a sense of loss, this "dead" love can evoke feelings of regret and grief. Essentially, love is pure; we can appreciate it as such, but it also brings with it emotions and memories that, while not essential to love itself, inevitably leave their marks- both for better and for worse.
Memories, on the other hand, can lead to comparison and conflict as you've mentioned, but they also enrich our understanding of love and deepen our relationships. The key lies in how we engage with these memories. If we allow them to dominate our perception of love, they can lead to comparisons and conflicts, ultimately creating division. However, if we view them as experiences that contribute to our understanding of love, they can coexist harmoniously. Perhaps the power to navigate this does not lie solely with us; ultimately, it depends on the individual dealing with these feelings, I believe.
The challenge is to cultivate a mindset that embraces love in the present while acknowledging memories without allowing them to overshadow our current experience of love.
Glad we could exchange such heartfelt and sincere words. Keep Writing.
Thank you for sharing your thoughtful perspective!
I would like to address the "present moment" and its relationship to love. You mentioned love as a "present experience," but I find that the very essence of the present moment challenges this view.
The present moment, by its nature, cannot have qualities because it is still. Stillness means the absence of movement, and movement arises only when thought and the thinker are present when qualities are assigned or analyzed. This movement creates reality, which is always changing and tied to the mind's interpretations.
If the present moment is truly still, it cannot be described or experienced, because both description and experience rely on thought. Thought, however, is rooted in memory and the past, whereas the present moment exists outside of these.
This is why I see love as something to be witnessed rather than experienced. Love, in its purest form, is indivisible and cannot coexist with memories, as memories inherently bring comparison and division. Love is not tied to reality, which is ever-changing; it is the truth that remains constant and still, much like the present moment.
Can love truly be experienced if it is indescribable and beyond thought? Or is love simply a state of being that reveals itself when one is fully present, free of memories and comparisons?
I hope I have been able to clarify my point.
