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Has romance become materialistic?

Butter Bun

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Everyone has their own idea of romance and I'm wondering when did your quest for romance begin and how it has changed over years !

From following your crush on lunch breaks to getting matching tattoos, hand written notes to greeting cards, flowers to gifts. A passport size picture of your love to pre-wedding shoots and more !

Have we let others define how to be romantic with your loved ones. .. lets hear !

PS: I've sent this thread as a notification to few, whom I I've interreacted over my time in zozo would appreciate your thoughts and everyone who comes across!
 
Can't say whether it has become materialistic or not, but surely romance evolves.

I think the notion of romance is absolutely built just for two, and it stays within them. Same tattoo, Similar Outfits, Birthday Gifts, Cards, Chocolates, and many others fall under *materialistic expression* ( I can't even say materialistic expression of love) - my POV

The desire that builds in when two folks hold their hands and the chemistry that builds in each other is still all alive. All that matters is, whether both the folks are true and living in that moment with each other wholeheartedly or not.

If someone is capturing a so_called romantic moment and putting on social meida, I really doubt whether they are actually in that moment. A moment of pure intimacy has turned into a photo op. That sucks - POV

I still strongly believe, a true romance hides in the darkness which it finds even when it's million suns bright. To find that darkness and the romance hiding in it, we should more or less ditch the conscious world at least for few moments. That kind of romance is everything they both feel and nothing can replace it ever.
 
Thanks for notifying me about this @Butter Bun. Just loved the way you Penned down and summarised by both of our favourite guru @Tomato Fellow.

For me, romance has always been about presence - The little moments where two people are truly connected, whether it's holding hands in silence or laughing about something random. Yes, gifts and tattoos can be symbolic. But, they aren't the core, It's the inetention behind them that counts. The idea of "Ditching the conscious world," as you put it, is powerful. It's about finding that space where nothing else matters but the two people involved..

I think the beauty of romance lies in its personal nature, untouched by outside expectations. Maybe that's why it's easy to feel disconnected when it's reduced to a social media post. The real magic happens in those unfiltered, unshared moments.


P.S: End of the day............. Romance is what we make out of it.................How deeply we live it................rather than how we display it..

Cheers,
Atharv
 
Firstly, Thanks for notifying me dear bro..I strongly agree to all the points mentioned by @Tomato Fellow and @Atharv

For me In the early days, romance was as simple as blushing at the sight of him even when he was near college gate..It was about sending greeting cards, especially when 'Archies'was famous back then. Small gestures, ..like sharing a samosa in the canteen or passing handwritten notes, carried so much romance!

Romance and its essence evolves as individuals grow through the different phases of life.

Now, I see romance as a balance between passion, trust, companionship, intimacy and emotional connection and care for your partner.

When he comes home after a long, tiring day, offering him a hot cup of ginger tea and an oil head massage is ROMANCE

When I don't feel like cooking, giving me a break from the kitchen is ROMANCE

We really don't need money for these simple gestures, but times have changed.
Butter Bun said:
Have we let others define how to be romantic with your loved ones.
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Social media now sets the standard; if you don't share a picture of you and your partner, people assume you're not together.

Due to societal and peer pressure, romance has shifted toward a more grandiose expression.

From pre-wedding and post-wedding photoshoots to honeymoon and maternity photoshoots.

If romance is linked to materialism, then why do we see so many divorces occurring right after extravagant foreign trips or grand birthday parties?

When it comes to the main question, has romance become materialistic? Yes, it has in many ways,

but romance doesn't necessarily need money, expensive gifts and lavish candle light dinners

Romance requires the right partner and the right timing!!

In my POV..cheers!!
 
SiRa said:
Due to societal and peer pressure, romance has shifted toward a more grandiose expression.

From pre-wedding and post-wedding photoshoots to honeymoon and maternity photoshoots
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Absolutely nailed it
SiRa said:
Now, I see romance as a balance between passion, trust, companionship, intimacy and emotional connection and care for your partner.
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Strong words, which ofc, most folks don't REALIZE or Find sensible.
 
SiRa said:
If romance is linked to materialism, then why do we see so many divorces occurring right after extravagant foreign trips or grand birthday parties?
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It was only a matter of time for them to move apart. Why lose an international trip or a grand party? Have it, Enjoy itz and then call quits might be d reason ...haha..
It's just a viewpoint.
 
Butter Bun said:
Have we let others define how to be romantic with your loved ones. ..
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Outrightly, those who are afraid to be themselves amidst the crowd, those who validation lies in the eyes of others, those who believe attention is more important than emotion.. yeah, they let others define not only about being romantic, but their entire life as a whole
 
I see beautiful point of views..before me,that's lovely.
Romance can feel materialistic at times, but I believe it’s still the thoughtful efforts that make it special. Romance becomes enjoyable because of the small, genuine gestures someone makes—a heartfelt letter, a little gift, or even a simple notification just to let you know they’re thinking about you.
These small things, though often simple, carry meaning and can make someone feel truly appreciated. For me, it's these sincere efforts that create real connections.
 
Butter Bun said:
Everyone has their own idea of romance and I'm wondering when did your quest for romance begin and how it has changed over years !

From following your crush on lunch breaks to getting matching tattoos, hand written notes to greeting cards, flowers to gifts. A passport size picture of your love to pre-wedding shoots and more !

Have we let others define how to be romantic with your loved ones. .. lets hear !

PS: I've sent this thread as a notification to few, whom I I've interreacted over my time in zozo would appreciate your thoughts and everyone who comes across!
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I am not aware of what true love really is. I’ve loved my friends n parents n my mates, but that love is more about their behavior and attitude>>

Let me share my perspective Hun>>

Love isn't just about candlelit dinners or intimacy at night for sure!! It’s about the little things- a gentle caress on your partner's hair when they’re stressed, or a soft kiss on their hand for no particular reason:)

People may have differing opinions on love, but isn’t it up to each couple to define what love means to them?

The purest expression of love I’ve witnessed is between my parents. They still embody a youthful spirit. My ma starts her mornings with a cup of coffee adorned with a heart made from the milk, and my pa gives her a sweet hug by the bedside.

For them, love isn’t materialistic or even reliant on words ha ha>> Their bond isn’t based on expectations.......... but on deep feelings and longing.

mutual love and respect are needed>>><<<<far more than any materialistic expressions of love.

Elara>>Neptune
 
There are two parts to this post. An open ended question “ Has romance become materialistic?” as title but the actual content drifted to asking personal experiences.

Okay here I go - When the prenups are being worked out for months together between so called romantic couple deeply in love- what do you think it has become ?!
Butter Bun said:
Everyone has their own idea of romance and I'm wondering when did your quest for romance begin and how it has changed over years !
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My quest for romance began at very tender age where my dick getting harder seeing lovely things and I thought it’s due to love and didn’t have the knowledge that it’s all hormonal harmonium!

That idea changed over a period of time and ended up in understanding that holding hands in silence is also a romance! What a paradigm shift !


Butter Bun said:
From following your crush on lunch breaks to getting matching tattoos, hand written notes to greeting cards, flowers to gifts. A passport size picture of your love to pre-wedding shoots and more !
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Yes, of course - courtship always matters! As we used to wait eagerly for a recess bell in school to waiting for a vacant meeting room to make subtle lust in office as we grew up! Notes, flowers, self made greeting cards all part of it and when a girl shows the same flower after 5 years pressed in a book! It becomes nostalgia. Tattoos? I am never been a fan of it but “ indigenous pachabottu “ is fine but how about a girl trimming her pubic hair in the shape of first letter of your name ? Isn’t it damn romantic ? lol

I made memories etched in mind but not in photographs!
Butter Bun said:
Have we let others define how to be romantic with your loved ones. .. lets hear !
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Looks like this qtn was incorrectly framed buddy! You mean - did I let the partner define or “others” define ?

Others have no fucking business in defining how romantic I should be ! So coming to the partner - wow numerous ways ! And I did follow gleefully! Just making breakfast to dinner to pedicure !

To summarize - romance still exist but the idea of it differs but not chained in contractual papers!
 
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