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Informative Dear Men, Your Women aren't orgasming? Here's where you may be going wrong...!!

So here's how it was for me.

Even after having an active sex life with the same partner for around 2 years, i never orgasmed.
Yup, he was great in bed, he knew all my erroneous spots, he could last for a nice time, even took me to to my peaks... but poof, it just did not happen.
Over a time we just assumed that i was one of those who just didn't orgasm.

Orgasms are not just about your body, it's also about what happens in your head. If you are one of those who thinks about paying the bills while your man drills, there is a chance that you may not cum.

In my case, i had a fear. Sometimes, when I reached the peaks, i felt like my bladder was gonna burst. I didnt know what to expect. I didn't know how to let go. I didn't know how to orgasm.

When you are giving a hj or a bj, even if its your first time, most often than not you will be able to get your man off. Why? Because he will guide you through it! Babe, you are pulling too hard. Ouch, that's too much teeth. Babe, it needs more lathering up..

He's probably been doing it since his teenage years. He has mastered the art by now.
And because he knows what'll get him off, he can guide you perfectly through it.

So, i realised that it was about time that i take the burden of this in my own hands (or should I say fingers) and explore more so I can help my partner better.

P.S - tmi?
 
This thread officially has come alive after two years .. miraculously...


So let's talk about it... The one thing that always gets ignored.... Women orgasm.. we do seek that .. we do need that... Men don't need to work hard for that. . you need to work smart....

It's all in the head ... That is the biggest point people miss....
So man... If you want give your lady the best orgasm...
1. Create the idea of it in her head first...
2. Talk naughty / dirty whatever excites her the most and whisper the same in her ears... It does wonders trust me.. cuz the talking part always miraculously helps you to give her the best time... Take her to peaks... Especially the more dirty the talks are the more excitement you would brew.
3. More kisses.. more foreplay... Even the midplay.. cuz if you think you can do it in the end nooo you can't . Cuz you would be tired...
So always keep it either foreplay or midplay.. it's not always bam and jam.... Take it slow...
4.play a long ... Dig deep into her desires .. you will never know what a women is actually capable of until you brought her desires out ...

So first you want to give her the best and then you are already taking steps to the orgasm ...
 
Freakky said:
So here's how it was for me.

Even after having an active sex life with the same partner for around 2 years, i never orgasmed.
Yup, he was great in bed, he knew all my erroneous spots, he could last for a nice time, even took me to to my peaks... but poof, it just did not happen.
Over a time we just assumed that i was one of those who just didn't orgasm.

Orgasms are not just about your body, it's also about what happens in your head. If you are one of those who thinks about paying the bills while your man drills, there is a chance that you may not cum.

In my case, i had a fear. Sometimes, when I reached the peaks, i felt like my bladder was gonna burst. I didnt know what to expect. I didn't know how to let go. I didn't know how to orgasm.

When you are giving a hj or a bj, even if its your first time, most often than not you will be able to get your man off. Why? Because he will guide you through it! Babe, you are pulling too hard. Ouch, that's too much teeth. Babe, it needs more lathering up..

He's probably been doing it since his teenage years. He has mastered the art by now.
And because he knows what'll get him off, he can guide you perfectly through it.

So, i realised that it was about time that i take the burden of this in my own hands (or should I say fingers) and explore more so I can help my partner better.

P.S - tmi?
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Oh wow. Appreciate you for taking the step and sharing real life scenario.
Truly accept that its not always the body type or stamina of an individual coz the other person's presence of mind and peace of mind does matter.

Hope, you taking the burden into your hands (Yeah Fingers)worked well.
Wishing you both to explore more and find your happiness in whatever or however you do :angel:.
 
Deepa Reddy said:
This thread officially has come alive after two years .. miraculously...


So let's talk about it... The one thing that always gets ignored.... Women orgasm.. we do seek that .. we do need that... Men don't need to work hard for that. . you need to work smart....

It's all in the head ... That is the biggest point people miss....
So man... If you want give your lady the best orgasm...
1. Create the idea of it in her head first...
2. Talk naughty / dirty whatever excites her the most and whisper the same in her ears... It does wonders trust me.. cuz the talking part always miraculously helps you to give her the best time... Take her to peaks... Especially the more dirty the talks are the more excitement you would brew.
3. More kisses.. more foreplay... Even the midplay.. cuz if you think you can do it in the end nooo you can't . Cuz you would be tired...
So always keep it either foreplay or midplay.. it's not always bam and jam.... Take it slow...
4.play a long ... Dig deep into her desires .. you will never know what a women is actually capable of until you brought her desires out ...

So first you want to give her the best and then you are already taking steps to the orgasm ...
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Yeah after 2 years. I dont beleive in miracles and seems I ve to start more conversations in knowing this new Persona @Freakky.

And coming to your explanation, I feel like writing more threads where everyone should discuss more rather than like and post an emoji.
 
Aarav said:
Yeah after 2 years. I dont beleive in miracles and seems I ve to start more conversations in knowing this new Persona @Freakky.

And coming to your explanation, I feel like writing more threads where everyone should discuss more rather than like and post an emoji.
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You are right . People'should talk more about the real matters rather than silly things..

Maybe things that need change of mindsets like these
 

Different types of female orgasms :


1. Is this a certain type of orgasm?​

No, “female orgasm” is an all-encompassing term for any type of orgasm related to female genitalia.
It could be clitoral, vaginal, even cervical — or a mix of all three. That said, your genitalia isn’t your only option when it comes to achieving the big O.
Read on for tips on where to touch, how to move, why it works, and more.

2. It can be a clitoral orgasm​

Direct or indirect stimulation of the clitoris can lead to a clitoral orgasm. When you get your rub on just right, you’ll feel the sensation build in your pleasure bud and peak.



3. It can be a vaginal orgasm​

Although few people are able to climax with vaginal stimulation alone, it sure can be fun trying!

If you’re able to make it happen, prepare for an intense climax that can be felt deep inside your body.

The front vaginal wall is also home to the anterior fornix, or A-spot.




4. It can be a cervical orgasm​

Cervical stimulation has the potential to lead to a full-body orgasm that can send waves of tingly pleasure from your head to your toes.

And this is an orgasm that can keep on giving, lasting quite a while for some.

Your cervix is the lower end of your uterus, so reaching it means going in deep.




5. Or a mix of all the above​

A combo orgasm can be achieved by pleasuring your vagina and clitoris simultaneously.

The result: a powerful climax that you can feel inside and out.

Be sure to supersize your combo by adding some other erogenous zones to the mix.



6. But you can O from other stimulation, too​

The genitals are awesome, but they’re not your only option. Your body is full of erogenous zones with orgasmic potential.

Nipple​

Your nipples are full of nerve endings that can feel oh-so-good when played with.

According to a 2011 study, when stimulated, your nipples set your genital sensory cortex ablaze. This is the same area of the brain that lights up during vaginal or clitoral stimulation.

Nipple orgasms are said to sneak up on you, then explode in waves of full-body pleasure. Yes, please!



Anal​

You don’t need to have a prostate to have an anal orgasm. Anal play can be pleasurable for anyone if you have enough lube and take your time.

You can indirectly stimulate erogenous zones within the vagina using a finger or sex toy.




Erogenous zones​

Your body really is a wonderland. The neck, ears, and lower back, for example, are rich in erotically charged nerve endings begging to be touched.

We can’t say exactly which parts of your body will drive you to the brink, but we can tell you that everyone has erogenous zones, and finding them is definitely worth the effort.




7. Where does the G-spot come in?​

The G-spot is an area along the front wall of your vagina. For some people, it can produce a very intense and very wet orgasm when stimulated.

Your fingers or a curved G-spot vibrator are the best way to hit the spot. Squatting will give you the best angle


8. What happens in the body when you orgasm? Does this depend on the type?​

Every body is different, and so are their orgasms. Some are more intense than others. Some last longer than others. Some are wetter than others.
What physically happens during orgasm is:
  • Your vagina and uterus contract rapidly.
  • You experience involuntary muscle contractions in other parts, like your abdomen and feet.
  • Your heart rate and breathing quicken.
  • Your blood pressure increases.
You may feel a sudden relief of sexual tension, or even ejaculate.

9. What makes a female orgasm different from a male orgasm?​

It may be surprising, but they’re not all that different.
Both involve increased blood flow to the genitals, faster breathing and heart rate, and muscle contractions.
Where they typically differ is in duration and recovery — also known as afterglow.
Female orgasm may also last longer, ranging from 13 to 51 seconds on average, while male orgasm often ranges from 10 to 30 seconds.
People with a vagina can typically have more orgasms if stimulated again.
People with a penis typically have a refractory phase. Orgasms aren’t possible during this period, which can last from minutes to days.
People with a clitoris may also go through a similar phase. A 2009 study involving 174 university students found that 96 percent of female participants experienced hypersensitivity in the clitoris following orgasm.
Remember, the range of the refractory phase varies from person to person. Your own experience is unique to you.
Then there’s ejaculation. For a person with a penis, contractions force semen into the urethra and out of the penis. And speaking of ejaculation…

10. Is female ejaculation a thing?​

Yes! And it’s a fairly common thing.
A 2013 research review of female ejaculation found that more than 10 to 54 percentTrusted Source of participants experienced ejaculation during orgasm.
Ejaculation occurs when fluid is expelled from your urethral opening during orgasm or sexual arousal.
The ejaculate is a thick, whitish fluid that resembles watered-down milk. It contains some of the same components as semen.

11. What’s the orgasm gap?​

The orgasm gap refers to the gap between the number of male and female orgasms in heterosexual sex, where those with female genitalia are getting the shorter end of the stick.
A 2018 study on orgasms in heterosexual newlywed couples found that 87 percent of husbands and only 49 percent of wives reported consistently experiencing orgasms during sexual activity.
Why the gap? Researchers don’t know for certain. Some argue it could be biological, while others blame cultural and societal perspectives and a lack of education when it comes to pleasure.
 
Tips to be followed while if it's first time :
The first thing you should do is take the pressure off so you can enjoy yourself.
Instead, take the time to get to know your body and concentrate on how it feels.

You may find it helpful to:

  • get comfy somewhere you won’t be interrupted or distracted, like in your bed or the bath
  • try reading an erotic story or using your imagination to get yourself in the mood
  • massage the fleshy area above your clitoris and the outer and inner lips of your vulva until you begin to get wet, maybe also using lube
  • start rubbing your clitoris over the hood and find a rhythm that feels good
  • rub faster and harder, increasing the speed and pressure to intensify the feeling, and keep at it until you orgasm
If you don’t orgasm, you can always try again. Trying new things is the best way to figure out what turns you on and how to orgasm.
 
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