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Hello zozomates..when we are in a situation or just our mindset ...when we feel our existence doesn't matter to anyone..or our presence doesn't add up any value and our absence doesn't create any void or vaccum ..

Just we feel so unwanted!!

What is the best thing we should do to make peace with ourselves?

Appreciate your response in advance
 
Hello ,

I would like to point out from my own experience ..first and foremost thing is we should love ourselves . Self love .. most people of this generation put themselves first and honestly there is nothing wrong in the "ME FIRST " attitude ..so love yourself enough !!! Don't have the mind set of I'm not worthy enough , i'm unlovable etc ..
Don't self pity or don't play the victim card , don't romantize the pain or grief ..don't allow others to pity you as well.. if you had a failed relationship it's ok to grieve the loose but constantly goin back to that or dwelling on it is not going to help which I have personally experienced.
Be confident enough to think that I'm full by myself and I don't need anyone to complete me or I don't want anyone's help .. I can be happy on my own . The thought of someone would come to complete us and change us might actually be overrated ..
Don't be hard on yourself , everyone has flaws and flaws is what makes us beautiful
Develop a hobby , talk with people , listen to music ,. Spend more time on self development and if you are working think About how you can enhance your career .
Be self confident , be self assured that you are a success and live for yourself don't look for validation outside or from anyone bcoz most of the times everyone is busy with their own lives .. cheers ..
 
Hello ,

I would like to point out from my own experience ..first and foremost thing is we should love ourselves . Self love .. most people of this generation put themselves first and honestly there is nothing wrong in the "ME FIRST " attitude ..so love yourself enough !!! Don't have the mind set of I'm not worthy enough , i'm unlovable etc ..
Don't self pity or don't play the victim card , don't romantize the pain or grief ..don't allow others to pity you as well.. if you had a failed relationship it's ok to grieve the loose but constantly goin back to that or dwelling on it is not going to help which I have personally experienced.
Be confident enough to think that I'm full by myself and I don't need anyone to complete me or I don't want anyone's help .. I can be happy on my own . The thought of someone would come to complete us and change us might actually be overrated ..
Don't be hard on yourself , everyone has flaws and flaws is what makes us beautiful
Develop a hobby , talk with people , listen to music ,. Spend more time on self development and if you are working think About how you can enhance your career .
Be self confident , be self assured that you are a success and live for yourself don't look for validation outside or from anyone bcoz most of the times everyone is busy with their own lives .. cheers ..
Awesome..Thank you so much
 

Be true to yourself​

Few things are more disconcerting than living a life you weren’t meant to live.
It continuously gnaws away at you. Live a life that’s congruent with your values.

It’s too easy to allow society dictate your choices.

You don’t have to spend your life on a career that’s impressive to others. You don’t have to chase after a fancy house.

Make your own decisions about what’s most important to you.
 
Hello zozomates..when we are in a situation or just our mindset ...when we feel our existence doesn't matter to anyone..or our presence doesn't add up any value and our absence doesn't create any void or vaccum ..

Just we feel so unwanted!!

What is the best thing we should do to make peace with ourselves?

Appreciate your response in advance
Thanku sailu for asking this which is most relatable to me too haha.
 
Hey @Sailu dear....
Hope ur doing well its being long time babee...

Hmmmm being unwanted can be for anyone like friends, bestie, relatives, sisters, brothers it depends on the situations with different persons...

But u need to remember is "HOW IMPORTANT U R IN UR LIFE BUT NOT FOR THEM"

Don't try to IMPRESS someone who is not worthy, if ur absence doesn't make make any difference then there presence should not make any effect on you.

I totally agree with @Stupidworld "self - love" which I always do, you are the "1st PRIORITY".





What is the best thing we should do to make peace with ourselves?
Make ur hobbies into ur daily routine....

Do what u like most or whatever makes u feel relaxed
You can do this also haha...
:rofl1:
 
Hey @Sailu dear....
Hope ur doing well its being long time babee...

Hmmmm being unwanted can be for anyone like friends, bestie, relatives, sisters, brothers it depends on the situations with different persons...

But u need to remember is "HOW IMPORTANT U R IN UR LIFE BUT NOT FOR THEM"

Don't try to IMPRESS someone who is not worthy, if ur absence doesn't make make any difference then there presence should not make any effect on you.

I totally agree with @Stupidworld "self - love" which I always do, you are the "1st PRIORITY".





Make ur hobbies into ur daily routine....

Do what u like most or whatever makes u feel relaxed
You can do this also haha...
:rofl1:
Fan of this movie & scene :angel:
 
Hello zozomates..when we are in a situation or just our mindset ...when we feel our existence doesn't matter to anyone..or our presence doesn't add up any value and our absence doesn't create any void or vaccum ..

Just we feel so unwanted!!

What is the best thing we should do to make peace with ourselves?

Appreciate your response in advance
Make the other person feels unwanted too!!
 
After ignoring all that above... We can read your long post for this scene...



Jersey...❤️
Hey @Sailu dear....
Hope ur doing well its being long time babee...

Hmmmm being unwanted can be for anyone like friends, bestie, relatives, sisters, brothers it depends on the situations with different persons...

But u need to remember is "HOW IMPORTANT U R IN UR LIFE BUT NOT FOR THEM"

Don't try to IMPRESS someone who is not worthy, if ur absence doesn't make make any difference then there presence should not make any effect on you.

I totally agree with @Stupidworld "self - love" which I always do, you are the "1st PRIORITY".





Make ur hobbies into ur daily routine....

Do what u like most or whatever makes u feel relaxed
You can do this also haha...
:rofl1:
Will try this for sure...haha
 
Hey @Sailu dear....
Hope ur doing well its being long time babee...

Hmmmm being unwanted can be for anyone like friends, bestie, relatives, sisters, brothers it depends on the situations with different persons...

But u need to remember is "HOW IMPORTANT U R IN UR LIFE BUT NOT FOR THEM"

Don't try to IMPRESS someone who is not worthy, if ur absence doesn't make make any difference then there presence should not make any effect on you.

I totally agree with @Stupidworld "self - love" which I always do, you are the "1st PRIORITY".





Make ur hobbies into ur daily routine....

Do what u like most or whatever makes u feel relaxed
You can do this also haha...
:rofl1:
I m doing good Maya ... yesterday just a bad day .. suddenly I was very low and posted this .... today I m back with my normal mood

Thank you so much for the reply
 
I m doing good Maya ... yesterday just a bad day .. suddenly I was very low and posted this .... today I m back with my normal mood

Thank you so much for the reply
No worries babee am always available...

Am glad ur back to normal mode...
Keep smiling n make everyone jealous with ur smile :kiss:
 
Hello zozomates..when we are in a situation or just our mindset ...when we feel our existence doesn't matter to anyone..or our presence doesn't add up any value and our absence doesn't create any void or vaccum ..

Just we feel so unwanted!!

What is the best thing we should do to make peace with ourselves?

Appreciate your response in advance
In simple words, live n enjoy the present moment, don’t think too much about what is there in store for me. Supreme already decided what we are capable for n what we deserve.
 
Welcome to the club @Sailu

Well, what you are experiencing is truth
And you are feeling pain because you can't accept it
Indeed, your existence doesn't matter to anyone (at least not really)
Indeed, your presence doesn't add up to anything
Indeed, your absence doesn't create any void
It is the ultimate truth, you are just a speck of that in the universe so is everybody
The universe can live without you, it was there before you, it will be after you

I am assuming you felt those things because you are comparing your life with someone else's.

So the people you are comparing yourself with, the people you are seeking love from, are they happy?
Well, in your perspective they are.

But what if their reality is changed? What if they are all in a much worse situation than you to begin with?
Now when you compare them with yourself, you feel better, you feel happy.

So what changed? You are the same Sailu, your reality is never changed, not even a single bit, but you are feeling better. Why is that?

So you hold the key to your happiness, isn't it? By comparing with people who are better than you, you can never be happy and grow. Comparing yourself with those who are worse than you can make you feel better but it doesn't really help you grow. The only comparison that can grow you as a person and can you make you really happy, is a comparison with your past self. Compare yourself with your past self, if you are in a better position, you are happy, if you are not in a better situation, time for some self-reflection.

Remember all those tough days you have been through, remember how you overcome your demons. If you are capable of being happy in the past, you are capable of that in the present too, so does in the future. If you are never been happy in your life, all the more reason for you to be happy, isn't it? I mean you are already sad, so you can do whatever you do and whatever you do, it won't make you more sad but it always has a chance of making you happy and better. If you think that it can make you more sad, that means you are less sad now, hence you are in a better situation, isn't it? So isn't it gives you a reason to be happy, to put a smile on your face??

We came into this world with nothing. We were so happy as kids, a little candy could get us excited. It is us who wanted more because we started comparing ourselves with someone else and started dreaming of things. There is nothing wrong with that, but in that process, we always forget those little things that made us happy. So when we fail, we become sad and depressing. Nobody wants a sad person, nobody wants to be around a sad person. So if you want to be wanted by other people, the only possible way to achieve is to be happy. Only if you are happy, you can make other people happy. You can't give what you don't have to others. So be happy, find those little things that make you happy. Once you are happy, you can make people happy, so that people will want you. Even if they don't, at least you will be happy, isn't it enough??

I mean what is the point if you are so successful but a sad person? It doesn't make any sense.

And don't worry about the others, no matter what they do they are just gonna end up forgotten just as you and I. Oblivion is inevitable for everybody. So they are not adding up to anything too. Let me throw some Hazel Grace as she can explain this in short.

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If you didn't watch "The Fault in Our Stars" movie, you should watch it, it is a very good movie.

Excuse me if I am not making any sense, my brain is like a wild bunny, it always hops here and there :rofl1:

What I mean to say is, don't stress yourself too much.
Nobody is born with a glorious purpose, there is no glorious purpose to life except to be happy, to achieve peace :fingercross:

I hope whatever I said is not depressing, is it depressing??
 
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