What is emotional attachment?
-Do you remember confiding in someone in the late hours of the night? (The Emotionally Vulnerable Phase)
-Do you remember meeting someone when you had a very good news to share? (The Joyous Phase)
-Do you remember randomly calling up someone when you were bored? (The Lonely Phase)
-Do you remember seeking emotional support from someone when you were in a bad mood? (The Stress Phase)
Why did you do that?
This is because a confession made you feel relieved and emotionally liberated.
What happened next?
--You went to the same person again when you were happy/ lonely/ stressed/ emotionally vulnerable, the next time.
--You began considering that person, the enigmatic solution to all woes in your life. (The Psychology of Attachment)
--You intentionally or unintentionally made that person, the epicenter of all your emotions.
What was the aftermath?
--It felt great as long as the other person lasted in your life.
--Once that special person took a sharp exit, you suffered two losses:-
Loss of that person.
Loss of the “cure” to all your problems in life.
How to not get attached?
--Take a walk when you feel bored.
--Treat yourself with food when you feel happy. (The Dopamine Effect)
--Try recounting your past achievements when you feel bad about yourself. (The Self talk Therapy)
--Avoid late night conversations. It is the biggest source of pleasure and pain alike.
Remember, every attachment in life comes with a significant risk of detachment. So, take your decision wisely.
If you want to detach emotionally then divert your mind. Give yourself positive affirmations.
Read this story somewhere ..
Once upon a time there was a village. Laxman had a small business there. Laxman wanted to be super successful in his business. After pondering over possible obstacles in his road of success he reached to the conclusion that his own mind was a big obstacle. Thinking about useless things was Laxman's favorite pass time. Daydreaming was his hobby. So he felt that he need a power. The power of ‘laser focus’. So, Laxman went to a monk and asked for the solution this problem. The monk thought for a while.
Monk: Dear do you see those monkeys on that tree?
Laxman : Yes
Monk : Now go back to your work and don't think about the monkeys. Come to me tomorrow.
Next day Laxman went back to the Monk and said that he couldn't stop thinking about the monkeys. The more he tried not to think about them the more those monkeys occupied his mind.
Monk smiled and said “Dear Laxman, this is the answer to your question. You tried very hard not to think about the monkeys. Often we give so much attention and energy to our problems that we forget about the solution.”
So the solution to your problem is stop thinking about the attachment. Think of something else. Divert your mind to do some constructive work. At first it might be hard but keep trying to give attention to your work. Don't say “I don't want to think about X”, Not a single time. Say I need to do some work /study and I am thinking about strategy to complete my goal. Think of something else
(Source-Google)
RADIATE POSITIVITY!!
-Do you remember confiding in someone in the late hours of the night? (The Emotionally Vulnerable Phase)
-Do you remember meeting someone when you had a very good news to share? (The Joyous Phase)
-Do you remember randomly calling up someone when you were bored? (The Lonely Phase)
-Do you remember seeking emotional support from someone when you were in a bad mood? (The Stress Phase)
Why did you do that?
This is because a confession made you feel relieved and emotionally liberated.
What happened next?
--You went to the same person again when you were happy/ lonely/ stressed/ emotionally vulnerable, the next time.
--You began considering that person, the enigmatic solution to all woes in your life. (The Psychology of Attachment)
--You intentionally or unintentionally made that person, the epicenter of all your emotions.
What was the aftermath?
--It felt great as long as the other person lasted in your life.
--Once that special person took a sharp exit, you suffered two losses:-
Loss of that person.
Loss of the “cure” to all your problems in life.
How to not get attached?
--Take a walk when you feel bored.
--Treat yourself with food when you feel happy. (The Dopamine Effect)
--Try recounting your past achievements when you feel bad about yourself. (The Self talk Therapy)
--Avoid late night conversations. It is the biggest source of pleasure and pain alike.
Remember, every attachment in life comes with a significant risk of detachment. So, take your decision wisely.
If you want to detach emotionally then divert your mind. Give yourself positive affirmations.
Read this story somewhere ..
Once upon a time there was a village. Laxman had a small business there. Laxman wanted to be super successful in his business. After pondering over possible obstacles in his road of success he reached to the conclusion that his own mind was a big obstacle. Thinking about useless things was Laxman's favorite pass time. Daydreaming was his hobby. So he felt that he need a power. The power of ‘laser focus’. So, Laxman went to a monk and asked for the solution this problem. The monk thought for a while.
Monk: Dear do you see those monkeys on that tree?
Laxman : Yes
Monk : Now go back to your work and don't think about the monkeys. Come to me tomorrow.
Next day Laxman went back to the Monk and said that he couldn't stop thinking about the monkeys. The more he tried not to think about them the more those monkeys occupied his mind.
Monk smiled and said “Dear Laxman, this is the answer to your question. You tried very hard not to think about the monkeys. Often we give so much attention and energy to our problems that we forget about the solution.”
So the solution to your problem is stop thinking about the attachment. Think of something else. Divert your mind to do some constructive work. At first it might be hard but keep trying to give attention to your work. Don't say “I don't want to think about X”, Not a single time. Say I need to do some work /study and I am thinking about strategy to complete my goal. Think of something else
(Source-Google)
RADIATE POSITIVITY!!
no offense - we loose one , we find another!
