I have my own notions and still pretty optimistic that I won’t have to go through an arranged marriage procedure but it will be better if you have a list of probable traits you want in your life partner. So, here I go :
- Trust your instincts: Your subconscious mind is the best friend you got. He will calculate all the variables and will let you know in a snap if the person in front can be worth a try.
- Choose a partner which is comparably similar to you: It’s a well-known fact that you tend to get along well if you have a similar background. Upbringing, financial status, ambitions, taste in literature, taste in music, types of movies and seasons is a good start to judge.
- Look beyond beauty but do not ignore it either: Those who say that they don’t go for looks are either good liars or are blind. Men have involuntary response towards good food and good looking women. It’s evolutionary and thus as much you may want to not look shallow, be sure that physical attraction is usually the first step towards love. Make a balance and weigh in other parameters also.
- Make her meet your friends and meet hers: This is one of the most important points which Indian men do not consider. This way you get to see her through the eyes of a third person and most importantly he also knows you. He will consider things you might have looked over and also analyze your behavior when you’re with her. Also, as I like to generalize a lot, I have seen that women who do not have girl-friends from their childhood/college years, they generally lack the integrity/character to make a successful marriage.
- Her relationship with her parents and her childhood: This is again a generalization. I feel that women who have had bad parenting or suffered child abuse are more prone to infidelity and are more of a ‘taker’ kind in a relationship. Her relationship with her parents is a direct indicator of her relationship with your parents. Obviously, this is a generalization and there are outliers but you only got one chance to have your first marriage.
- Financial awareness: As much as you want your marriage to be full of romance, it will have to pay bills and buy groceries. One should know if he is getting a liability or an asset. You should be on the same page regarding if you dream of living as of there is no tomorrow or saving every penny and invest it to make an empire.
